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I think it speaks for itself. 1in6 is an orga­ni­za­tion worth know­ing about in this regard. So is MaleSur­vivor.


  • Daran Posted May 18, 2018 9:47 am

    May I use this space to dis­cuss your more recent post on Alas a Blog? For rea­sons unre­lat­ed to the post, I feel­ing too frag­ile to com­ment there, even if I was­n’t banned.

    …as part of a pro­gram like Sex­u­al Harassment/Violence Aware­ness Week, which usu­al­ly focus­es almost exclu­sive­ly on men’s sex­u­al aggres­sion against women. There is good rea­son for that focus, of course. Women and girls are the tar­gets of men’s sex­u­al aggres­sion more fre­quent­ly and more sys­tem­i­cal­ly than men and boys are tar­get­ed by sex­u­al aggres­sors of any gen­der.

    Am I right in under­stand­ing that the state­ment that “Women and girls are the tar­gets…” is the “good rea­son” of the pre­ced­ing sen­tence?

    Lat­er you say

    [Men and boys] do not deserve to be left out of these con­ver­sa­tions just because our num­bers are small­er.

    If the small­er num­bers of male sur­vivors does not ren­der them unde­serv­ing of inclu­sion, why is it a good rea­son for an “almost exclu­sive” focus, which does, in fact exclude them?

    In any case, I do not accept the claim that “Women and girls are the tar­gets of men’s sex­u­al aggres­sion more fre­quent­ly and more sys­tem­i­cal­ly than men and boys…” Rather I would say that the vic­tim­i­sa­tion — in gen­er­al, and sex­u­al vic­tim­i­sa­tion in par­tic­u­lar — of men and boys is more fre­quent­ly and more sys­tem­at­i­cal­ly erased than the vic­tim­i­sa­tion of women and girls. As a con­se­quence, we can­not know which sex is more fre­quent­ly or more sys­tem­at­i­cal­ly vic­timised.

    It is per­verse to offer the result of the sys­tem­at­ic era­sure — the appear­ance that women and girls are more fre­quent­ly and more sys­tem­at­i­cal­ly — to jus­ti­fy the process that gives rise to that appear­ance.

  • rich­new­man Posted May 18, 2018 6:17 pm


    This is a sub­ject about which you and I have had a cou­ple of go rounds by now, and I am not sure there is any­thing to be gained from argu­ing about it again. We under­stand this issue in ways that are almost dia­met­ri­cal­ly opposed to each oth­er. So I will say, sim­ply, that I am glad to have your per­spec­tive here on my blog. I will even­tu­al­ly post the text of my talk here on my blog as well. When that hap­pens, I will move these com­ments to that post

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